One of the biggest myths about love is that it has to be something outside of us, when the truth is that we have all the power we need inside ourselves to be able to have this magical feeling.
This love is much greater than romantic love, and it always starts by realizing that we are our own source of it. Remember, love is all around.
If you have low self-esteem, work on it. You can’t rely on others, waiting for them to please you, to reassure you that you are worthy. Otherwise, it might happen that when you are in a relationship, you put the other person on a pedestal, while you constantly think that you are not good enough for them.
If you are insecure and you believe that your partner is better than you are, and perchance he or she forgets to compliment you, or reassure you every day, you might end up flirting with others in order to get that positive validation. At the end, you will feel guilty for not being completely loyal, and you’ll think even less of yourself. Then the gap between you and your partner will only get bigger and deeper, and without realising it, your relationship is doomed to fail. Don’t be one of these people. Work on your self-confidence, love and accept every bit of yourself. Each and every one of us is amazing. If you don’t know where to start, find a coach that will guide you all the way.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wild
Anyone who is close to me knows I am quite close to my heart and learned to love myself a long time ago. Was it easy? No, it most definitely wasn’t. I worked extremely hard on myself until, one day, I finally understood that the only way to live a happier and better life was if I accepted my weaknesses and imperfections and forgave myself for the occasional mistakes I made. Here is a list of tips that you could do to boost your love towards yourself.
Give your body, soul, and mind what they desire. Make sure you have some time each day to nourish and pamper yourself and try to meditate on a regular basis.
Learn to say no. Don’t let others use or step all over you. Be smart and set your boundaries.
End toxic relationships and get rid of those people who are just there to criticize you. Surround yourself with those who love you for who you are and support you all the way.
When someone compliments you, don’t start to think about how you can pay back the compliments, but embrace it and say thank you.
You made some mistakes? So what? Learn from them and forgive yourself. No one is perfect. You probably did the best you could have done in any given moment.
Stop the comparison. You are unique, so please understand, you shouldn’t compare yourself to anyone, only to yourself.
You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do. Get out of your comfort zone and try something different. Don’t be afraid to fail. You are much better than you think.
Celebrate your successes, no matter how small or big they are. Never miss an opportunity to give yourself a pat on the shoulder when you accomplish a previously set goal.
Last, but not least, get into the habit of keeping a success and gratitude journal.
How often do you express your gratitude to people, who love you, who stand by you and support you all the way? Grab this opportunity and call your loved ones and tell them how much they mean to you. If you are lucky enough to have these people within your reach, give them a huge hug and whisper to their ears how much you love them. Do it now, and try to make it a habit for every day!
Have you ever written a success or gratitude journal?
Keeping a success journal is an amazing way to reinforce the importance of your daily accomplishments. Success breeds success. The other great way to remind ourselves how special we are, is to write down 5 things each day that we love about ourselves. We are so often our worst critic, but with the help of these two exercises, we really work towards boosting our self-esteem and can also help us focus on the positive things in our lives.
I remember when I first encouraged one of my clients to start writing down 5 things she loved about herself each day. I can still recall the concerned look on her face after our first session. Could she possibly come up with 5 different qualities each day? Well, at our next meeting I could see straightaway that she was happy and content. Her whole body language had changed. The person that had sat in front of me before, feeling rather lost and empty had disappeared. I couldn’t wait to find out what had happened since I last saw her. When I asked her what colour her day was, she smiled and quickly looked down at her shoes. They were bright pink. She explained that in the last few days, she had been feeling on top of the world, and she never knew that she possessed so many great qualities, as she was always focusing on her weaknesses. She realised that she was not only loving and caring, but she was also a great cook, a good listener and a fair manager just to mention a few from her list. I was so pleased with the result.
I appreciate that practicing self-love might be challenging, especially in a time when you need to face some serious challenges. But, believe me when I say that in order to have a healthy and happy life, it is essential.
Smiling can also help. When you smile, people treat you differently. After all, a smile is the prettiest thing we can ever wear!
Did you also know that your smile actually is contagious? Test it!
Smile at the first person you see after reading this blog and you will be surprised how quickly your perspective of live will change for the better.
One of my favorite quotes is from Le Petit Prince (1943) Antoine de Saint Exupéry.
“Here is my secret. It is very simple.
It is only with the heart that one can see rightly;
What is essential is invisible to the eye.”
I always strived to live my life according to this ultimate truth. Now, after spending a number of years practicing self-development, working as a coach and yoga instructor, I can confidently say that I AM FINALLY THERE! And now, my goal is for you to experience this BEAUTIFUL state of being for yourself TOO!
You are here because some part of you is drawn to the Awaken your Heart Retreat coming up this October. However, space is limited and I can only take TEN lucky ladies with me for the retreat so if you feel that:
♥ This is the place where you need to be.
♥ This is the experience you need to go through.
♥ This is the knowledge you need to embrace.
Then, please make sure to secure your spot as soon as possible.
One of the best tools I have ever found to make my dreams come true!