Over the last few months, I became a workaholic. I realizing that I hardly ever went out with my friends anymore, I usually stayed at home in a tracksuit or other not so sexy or high-quality woman outfits! I wasn’t wearing make-up lately and spent less and less time on pampering myself. Generally, I felt I’d lost contact with my feminine side. Yet, If you asked anyone who saw me during this period, they would of course highly disagree with my comments above!
I obviously made every effort to look good when going out, or during a coaching session with clients, but deep down, I knew I was paying less attention to being that beautiful, desirable & high-quality woman that I used to be, not for anyone else, but for myself! The realization was rather difficult to bear, how did I get there?
After spending a couple of days speaking with friends and asking their opinions on the subject, I also did some online research and found a few great books in the library covering the topic.
We work ourselves half to death, in order to conquer the career ladder, but without even realizing it, we tread out the very core of our femininity into the ground during the process.
“Women sacrifice a lot to succeed in their careers; that should not include their femininity.”
We’ve taken on a lot of the masculine positions and traits whilst trying to free ourselves from traditional roles as passive housewives. Don’t get me wrong, it’s great we did that but, I also believe we went a bit too far?
Over the last years, we’ve somehow managed to lose touch with our feminine sides? I know that I did, and the number of women whom I talked to recently confirmed to me how they were in the same boat too.
Unfortunately, most of us lost the balance within ourselves, and therefore, with men too. We so wanted to believe that if we worked hard, then we could have it all, and even more. We learned to be independent, warriors if you like, but the truth is that we also picked up a few negative, undesirable attributes along the way, such as arrogance and being bossy or even manipulative. Those are not cored qualities of a woman, so it is not surprising that we ended up feeling lonely, broken-hearted, and exhausted.
I fully understand the desire to come across as a tough woman and show the world that we have our acts together. This is appealing to a certain degree, but deep down, these behaviors are defense mechanisms to protect ourselves, we don’t want to get hurt or feel vulnerable.
In order to find the love of our lives, we need to be open, learn to reconnect with our hearts, and get back in touch with our own feminine side. There are various practices that we can try that have the ability to make us feel more feminine, sexy and high-quality!
First of all, in order to look feminine we must start by choosing clothes that are flattering to our unique body shapes, and size. We want to look nice yet modest. Why save those nice dresses for later? Why not put them on today? I love makeup as It can really enhance the best of our features.
Accessories – such as a lovely colorful scarf, earrings, a necklace or just a stylish handbag to mention but a few – small additions can really add quality to your appearance.
As we each have a beautiful body, we need to love and admire it! It’s essential that we take good care of it, maintain a healthy diet, get enough sleep, and try to exercise on a daily basis in order to stay in shape and feel amazing!
Layer on an expensive body cream after taking a long bath, and make sure you give your body everything it deserves! You will be surprised how being at one with your body puts you more instinctively in touch with your physical self-esteem!
As a nice finishing touch, why not use a dab of perfume? Or scented lotion, and you’re good to go. Working on your external appearance is a way of tapping into the essence of who you are.
In this post, I spoke about how to look like a lady, in ‘Becoming a High Quality Woman – Part 2’ I’ll share some tips on how to feel flush & fabulous acting like one too.
One of my favorite quotes is from Le Petit Prince (1943) Antoine de Saint Exupéry.
“Here is my secret. It is very simple.
It is only with the heart that one can see rightly;
What is essential is invisible to the eye.”
I always strived to live my life according to this ultimate truth. Now, after spending a number of years practicing self-development, working as a coach and yoga instructor, I can confidently say that I AM FINALLY THERE! And now, my goal is for you to experience this BEAUTIFUL state of being for yourself TOO!
You are here because some part of you is drawn to the Awaken your Heart Retreat coming up this October. However, space is limited and I can only take TEN lucky ladies with me for the retreat so if you feel that:
♥ This is the place where you need to be.
♥ This is the experience you need to go through.
♥ This is the knowledge you need to embrace.
Then, please make sure to secure your spot as soon as possible.
One of the best tools I have ever found to make my dreams come true!