Day 2 – Self-limiting Beliefs
Good morning beautiful, how are you today?
This is Orsi on day 2 of becoming that high quality woman you’ve always desired to be.
Today, I’m going to talk about those ugly self-limiting beliefs.
Let’s take a closer look at them to see how they work, and how we can eliminate them from our life.
We hold onto these assumptions and perspectives as absolute truth while, without knowing it, all they do is hold us back from reaching our full potential. These beliefs are everywhere, and a part of all of us to some degree.
I’m not good/pretty or smart enough
I don’t deserve it
I am too young, people won’t take me seriously
I am too old, it’s too late to start
We can limit our beliefs in many different ways, through experiences, education, faulty facts, excuses, and fear. Many of them were formed and accumulated throughout our childhood. We picked them up through our interactions with others. These beliefs not only don’t serve us, but in fact, they hold us back from having the life we always desired. The great thing is that eliminating self-limiting beliefs is completely doable.
When we realise that we are facing a negative thought about ourselves, the first thing we need to do is to find the source of this negative belief. How do we do that? We need to dig deep into memories from our past – childhood, teenage years, early twenties, or even last year – to see what instance or instances brought us to this conclusion. Let’s say one of our self-limiting beliefs is, “I cannot be loved, because I have too much baggage. No one will want me with them.” Actually, to be quite frank, this was one of my biggest worries when it came to having a proper relationship. Even though I was completely aware of the fact that no one was perfect, as we were only humans, this belief was so deeply ingrained in me that it still managed to hold me back from achieving what I wanted. I also remember having seen my friends having never-ending arguments just because one of them had a lot of baggage from her past, and automatically, I held onto this experience as the ultimate truth.
The next thing we need to do is to find a counter instance. We need to look for examples where our belief is not entirely true. Going back to the same example I used before, now that we’ve established our self-limiting belief, all we need to do is to look around us and find a couple where even though one of the parties has a lot of issues; they still have a beautiful relationship. This indicates that there is a flaw in the belief system.
The next step is to look at the situation from a different angle and find an alternative reason to the problem. For example, in my case, when I analysed my friend’s situation a bit further, I realised that the underlying problem was not the issues she carried from her past, but the lack of communication.
After understanding where these negative and disempowering beliefs come from, our final step is to eliminate them. This could be done through visualisation, when we close our eyes and imagine that there are two pictures in front of us. On one of these pictures, we are very sad, as thanks to these unsupportive thoughts, we are not living the life we always desired, while on the other photo, we are glowing, as we have everything we have ever wanted. Now, let’s imagine that the image that illustrates a sad, miserable life is slowly getting blurry, and then it completely fades away. All we have in front of us now is the picture where we are smiling, feeling great about our life.
Here, we need to pay attention to our feelings. Who do we see around us when we look at that picture? How do we feel? What do we hear?
Change always starts with awareness, followed by understanding, and last but not least comes reconditioning.
Call To Action: Analyse and get rid of one of your nasty self-limiting beliefs using the 4 steps we talked about in this video.